Marami akong natanggap na phone calls at e-mails. for the last few days, giving me comfort sa aking medical condition. Inaasure ko sila na okay lang sa akin. Whaaaaaaa.
1. Isa pinalaki ko ang aking mga tsikiting gubats na independent at huwag mahina ang loob. Ipinakita ko sa kanila na pag may gusot, may lusot. Pag may problema, may solution.
2. Ikalawa, wala na akong iniisip pang hindi nagawa. Sa iksi ng buhay ko, iniisip ko na napakabilis ng lahat nang pangyayari. Sabi nga ni biyay:
when you look back, at least you can say to yourself that you've had one hell of an interesting ride. and that it was a life/lives well lived Sabi ng isa kong kaibigang blogger na si Jon, patunayan ko raw na masamang damo ako, hahaha) palagay ko nagawa ko na lahat.
Sa sulat ni Ann,(isang masugid na nagbabasa sa akin mula pa noong 2003) sinabi niya ang kaniyang buhay, ang kaniyang pagstrive na makapag-aral sa gitna ng kahirapan. Ang malungkot pagkatapos nilang makatapos lahat, namatay ang mga taong pinagkakautangan nila ng utang na loob bago pa man sila nakapagganti sa mga ginawa nila.
Sa tawag sa akin ni Lorena sa phone (nagmana rin sa akin ng pakikidigma sa internet thru facebook lamang) nafifeel daw niya na hindi siya tanggap ng mga dati niyang kaklase dahil sa kaniyang pananaw tungkol sa mga magulang na ipinaglalaba pa ng mga damit ang mga 25 above nilang mga anak. Kaibahan kasi ng kultura kung saan siya ipinanganak at saan siya lumaki, nakita ni L ang mga kalakaran dito na ang mga bata ay sinanay na to fend for themselves at an early age samantalang sa atin ay binebaby pa.
Nagkaroon din kami nang di pagkakaunawaan ng isa kong malapit na kamag-anak dahil sa sobrang pagtrato niya sa kaniyang anak na parang mga hari at reyna habang nag-aaral sila.
Hindi ako magbibigay ng huling lecture kagaya ng propesor na nagpaalam din dahil sa C pero ibig kong ipabasa sainyo ang ipinadala ni bayi sa akin para sa mga anak.
Appreciation and Gratitude
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result is excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never has a year he did not score.
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "none".
The director asked, " Is it your who father paid for your school fees?" the youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" the youth answered, my mother worked as cloth cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect to the director.
The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother washed the cloth before?" The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than I do.
The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job is high, when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hand, his mother felt strange; happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hand to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly; his tears falling as he was doing the chore. It is first time he found out that his mother's hands are wrinkled and there are so many bruises in her hand. Some bruises elicit so strong a pain when cleaned with water that made her mother shivered.
This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mother's hands are the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly cleaned all remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office
The director noticed the tears in the youth's eye. He asked: " Can you tell you what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hands, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The director asked, " please tell me your feeling."
The youth said, Number 1, I knew what is appreciation, without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can realize how difficult and tough to get something done. Number 3, I knew the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of other, a person that knew the suffering of others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the company's result improved tremendously.
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he developed "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is ignorance of his parent's effort. When he started work, he assumed every people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never know how suffering his employee and always blame others.
For this kind of people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent, did we love the kid or destroy the kid?
You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learn how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result is excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never has a year he did not score.
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "none".
The director asked, " Is it your who father paid for your school fees?" the youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" the youth answered, my mother worked as cloth cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect to the director.
The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother washed the cloth before?" The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than I do.
The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job is high, when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hand, his mother felt strange; happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hand to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly; his tears falling as he was doing the chore. It is first time he found out that his mother's hands are wrinkled and there are so many bruises in her hand. Some bruises elicit so strong a pain when cleaned with water that made her mother shivered.
This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mother's hands are the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly cleaned all remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office
The director noticed the tears in the youth's eye. He asked: " Can you tell you what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hands, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The director asked, " please tell me your feeling."
The youth said, Number 1, I knew what is appreciation, without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can realize how difficult and tough to get something done. Number 3, I knew the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of other, a person that knew the suffering of others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the company's result improved tremendously.
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he developed "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is ignorance of his parent's effort. When he started work, he assumed every people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never know how suffering his employee and always blame others.
For this kind of people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent, did we love the kid or destroy the kid?
You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learn how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.
Pinaysaamerika
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