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Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Expiry Date

Dear insansapinas,
A person I know donates canned goods which have already expired. My mother-in-law used to take the meds beyond one year expiry date. She said that it was still good a year after.


I was eating my steak the other week when I noticed that the steak sauce has a 2009 expiry date. Masarap pa rin but the mere thought  that food that had expired could become poisonous or toxic, I developed a stomach discomfort. If it was toxic, I could have been vomiting and feeling red and hot all over.


But the idea of the blog is not to brag that I-am-making-dildil of steak with some mashed potatos, green beans and yellow corn. Sabihin pa ninyo ang totoo na mayabang ako.


The point is the proposed expiry date of marriage proposed by a party list group of women. 
Like my usual question to my students, I would also like to ask the group, why ten, why not one, why not five or 8 or 9? Where did the number come from?


If it is trial marriage, ten years is too long for both couple to know what's wrong with their partner and why the idea that one can change the other is just a "love-niya-ako-and-he will-change-so- as- not- to- lose-me" is only a fraction of an inch true.


If this law is approved, the couple would not be able to remarry not until their church marriage is annulled too assuming that they also had walked the aisle lined with thousands worth of flowers and covered with red carpet. .


When the marriage "catastrophe" happens (definition: when every time, the couple communicates and there is an exchange of thuder and lightning; when UFO like round plates invade the kitchen, dinng room, living room as the couple try to hit each other and when the house became a traffic less street between rooms, years before the expiry date a year or two of their married life, should they wait for 10 years to move on with a new legal partner?


What about those couple who have lived happily ever after? 




Pinaysaamerika

10 comments:

biyay said...

di ko pa nakita ang text nung bill na yan pero, assuming it is constitutional and not contrary to public policy, etc., marami pa rin ang problema jan. hindi kaya discriminatory yun sa mga magaganda ang marriage at by operation of law, walang bisa na ang marriage nila? supposing nag-expire na ang marriage pero the couple are still together and have not renewed their contract, considered na renewed ba yun? for how long? supposing nag-lapse na ang ten years, the couple are stil living together, nagka-anak pa sila, legitimate child ba yun? supposing they are not living together anymore, did not renew contract, nagka-anak pa, illegitimate na ba ang bata? paano yun division of properties? marriage lapsed, still livng together, acquired properties, no job ang isa sa kanila, paano ang sharing o ang property regime?

unlike ordinary contracts, masyadong marami and malalim ang effects ng marriage contract. mahirap lagyan ng expiration date yun. hindi yan katulad ng contract of work na pagkatapos ng contract, pwede ng umariba at walang ibang effects. kasi yung effects ng marriage, paano i-manage o i-undo. tama si hontiveros, kung ganun lang naman ang gusto, gawin na lang mas madali ang magpa-annull.

o kaya, yung mga na-annul na yung marriage on the ground of psychological incapacity, dapat pagbawalan na mag-contract ng marriage.

biyay said...

ok, so proposal pa lang yata yun, wala pang bill. anyway, the purpose daw is "to spare incompatible couples the expense of lengthy legal proceedings before their marriages are annulled.” tapos daw "Those who can’t afford an annulment just suffer forever.”

precisely kailangan ng legal proceedings sa paghihiwalay kasi dapat ayusin ang effects nito, lalong lalo na sa conjugal properties. papayag ba ang isang asawa na pag-expire ng kasal nila, babalik sa kanila ang kani-kanilang properties at wala silang paki sa properties ng asawa nila (aquired bago sila kinasal)? pano yung properties acquired during the marriage? ok lang again kung the said properties will go to whoever bought it, pero paano pag walang trabaho o housewife/houseband yun isa?

at bakit suffering forever, e hindi ba nangyayari na ang mag-asawa na ayaw na sa isa't-isa basta na lang naghihiwalay at kumukuha ng ibang "asawa"?

cathy said...

precisely biyay ang iniisip ko. halimbawa, masaya kayo. ang bugbugan ninyo ay part of romance tapos nakalimutan ninyo na nag-expire and contract of marriage at hindi narenew, anong effect noon sa legal properties, sa mga rights ng spouse and children at marami pamg iba.

cathy said...

hindi yata lawyers ang mga nagdraft ng proposal na yan.

ang dami pang issues na dapat sagutin.

Twilight Zone said...

i like, i like pero bakit 10 yrs?ang haba naman jejeje.
pero sa totoo lang di naman ako excited kasi wala naman akong chance (asa pa)...
di kasi uubra samin yan, sabi nga nung isang blogger, kami mga blind sheep, oha atleast di sinabing blind cheap(ang layo).
walang dahilan para ako mag interes sa mga ganitong topic huh!(litsi,buset,kaasar,kainis grrrrr) nyahahahaha
like na like sana kaso
di pwede eh, waaaaaa.
bakit naman kasi di pede, sigh, im alone naman na for more than a decade na eh,
pero ok lang naman walang sakit ng ulo (walang asawa) kaso
pag my asawa ka my punching bag ka paminsan minsan, my nabubulyawan,
my nasisisi ka sa mga
kamalasang inaabot mo
sa buhay di gaya nung nagiisa ka, wala kang masisi, wala kang punching bag at
mga tao dito sa planta ang
napagdidiskitahan mong masigawan bwahaha.

Twilight Zone said...

isa lang naman ang disadvantage nung wala akong asawa.
di maka byahe yung anak ko ng wala ako, masyado kasing maraming ek ek kung lalakarin ang dswd,
atleast dina gaya nung
maliit pa sya(dati) na kahit kasama ako sa byahe e
kelangan parin permiso ng (inutil) ama.

ang isang pinaka disadvantage e yung pagbili ng property (plano ko bumili ng lupa sa sementeryo)
diko maipangalan sakin dahil kahit na walang share yung aking ex (na animal) e kahati pa rin sya,anu sya siniswirti????magkatabi
kami sa libingan?di pede.

cathy said...

lee,
mdali lang akong nakakuha ng divorce kaya di ko feel yang proposal na yan. sabi nga ni biyay, it is one way for the group to get the attention of the media and the Church.

ako unan na lang ang punching bag.

rally vincent said...

madam cat,

di ako agree sa kalitsihan na 10 years na yan sa marriage contract. parang ginawang driver's license or passport ang marriage contract.

kasi naman, ang iba naman e asawa ng asawa na di kinikilatis ng mabuti ang mapapangasawa. syempre, kunwari heaven muna sa ligawan at jowa period. pagdating ng asawa na...hoooo...hell na pala! litsi.

ako, e halos nasa marrying age na din. nakakantsawan na dahil di pa nag-aasawa. sabi ko, i dont dare engage in things na di ko kayang panindigan. at saka di naman ako mag-asawa para lang may mag-alaga sa akin pagtanda ko (kasi yun ang madalas kong marinig na dahilan kung bakit nagaasawa)...hindi naman ako takot tumanda mag-isa. :)

cathy said...

silver.
yong mgs taong nagsasabi ng ayaw tumandang mag-isa ay naniniwala na hindi mamatay ng maaga ang asawa nila...wala silang balak launin ang kanilang asawa o kaya ay haribasin ng itak...sandali nagigiging violente ang aking comment. ilang gamot na nga ba ang nainom ko? ano nga ba ang pangalan ko? bwehehehe

cathy said...

lee,
ganoon katindi anoh. hating asawa pero yong kalahati niya ibibigay sa iba.

lupit ng tadhana.

oo nga may policy ang Dwsd na kailangan may written consent ang ama o ina sa pag-lipad palabas ng bansa. marami kasi nakikidnap ang mga bata at pinalalabas na ank ng kumidnap.